sexual positions

susieandmarty

Alright ladies - DH and I are having sex about 2-3 times a week - and I am looking for a way to mix it up.  Missionary really is not comfy anymore, and I hate to say it, I get a little lazy on top lately.  There are a few positions that work - doggy style, on our sides....

I figured I cannot be alone in this - so is anyone getting really creative?  What positions are out?  

gymnst1013

2-3 times a week??  Man alive!!  We haven't had sex in probably a month.  I think I've forgotten how.

As for positions, clearly I'm probably not the best to give advice   But anything with you on your back would be out.

lynn97

I, too, am impressed that you have the energy to have sex 2-3 times a week. DH and I are lucky to get in 1 x a week right now with everything we have going on. I generally just get on top b/c missionary has been really uncomfortable for me for a while.  We've talked about doggie-style too, but haven't tried that yet (since getting pg).

ShandaB

Holy crap!  We haven't had sex in a few weeks so I can't really help you with this one. 

simbaby

Sitting position - away from him or facing him

IrishEyes0530

2-3 times a week!? Wow. I've gotten to the point where I just "help out" DH once in a while. When we do have sex, the only thing that's comfortable for me is the spooning position. We haven't tried much else, I usually don't have the energy and the further along I get the more uncomfortable it is.

Sunidaze

no help from me...i fear my lady parts have already atrophied from lack of any activity at all down there. i would guess it's been about 2 months now.

LollyBug18

Yep, DH is lucky if it happens once a week...that being said, earlier I was thinking that next time we make an attempt, the stairs might be a good place to head

kmv68

gymnst1013:

2-3 times a week??  Man alive!!  We haven't had sex in probably a month.  I think I've forgotten how.

As for positions, clearly I'm probably not the best to give advice   But anything with you on your back would be out.

I lol when I read this post and agree 100%!

susieandmarty

wow - i really did not feel like it was that much - but since second tri my libido has been in high gear - it is waning a bit, but I am still enjoying sex, so why not keep having it.  Maybe DH will see a drop off soon.

LauraOTR

I'm on pelvic rest, so it's been about 2 months for us, and will be at least another month until I get rechecked (low lying placenta). So, I'm no help, but I'm reading these posts with interest, because I'm hoping to need this advice in about a month!

tchubirubi

I'll give you the same list I gave on my response to:

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/49529472.aspx

But I'd like to add that the chair thing is really much less tiresome than being on top on the bed. So, unless you've already tried it and found it also tiresome, I'd give it a go.

Also, the inclined missionary is becoming better and better. I think it optimizes G-spot stimulus and it can get so good it's scary. But maybe that is also due to increased blood irrigation in the area or something (as I think I've already mentioned somewhere as weel). Downside is that penetration doesn't go as deep as in other positions... well, it may go, but it takes a lot of adjusting.

Anyway, here goes:

- lying on your sides (you'll have to have one leg - the upper one - around him) - facing each other or with your back to him - you can lean your torso away from him to facilitate maximum penetration, or avoid it, by keeping close. Comes in handy especially in the first trimester, when you may get cramps when penetration gets too deep;

- inclined missionary - use pillows so you're not flat on your back and have DH not lie on top of you, but keep his arms streched for support. To increase penetration and also to give DH a more confortable position, It is also good to have pillow(s) beneath your but, so that he can either kneel or squat. Besides, it makes his hip movements easier;

- you on top on a chair - I find that sitting on top while he sits on a chair takes a lot of stress out of my knees and makes cirle movements (front and up and back and down and front...) much easier to perform. Find a chair with appropriate height (too low will increase your effort, too high will diminish the amplitude of your movements). It is a good position for deep penetration, but since you'll be on top, it will be easy to take it as you want it. Good for pompoarism too and also works facing each other or with your back to him. You can try using the corner edge of the bed as well, but that may take a bit of the leg room for you when face to face...

- you on a table, him on his feet, facing each other - you'll mostly be still, since the hard table hampers most broad movements, so it is a position made better (or worse) by the level of skill of your partner. But there's a kinky factor that should be taken into consideration. Also, you can try turning your back to him and doing it standing (well, he'll be standing, you'll be leaning forward and using your elbows and arms for support on the table), which leaves you great freedom of movement and and enables good penetration, but can be unconfortable if your knees tend to give when you climax (remember, you're heavier and your joints ares softer);

- good old doggy style (although I think that, as our bumps grow heavier, it may get unconfortable - I can't be sure, haven't gotten there yet)

- you can try standing facing each other, with you leaning over something for support, but I am not sure that's good because of the knees buckling thing and the whole standing on one leg (since you'll likely end up lifting the other to enable penetration) seem too unconfortable to me... but it may be nice for you, so...

Have fun!

LollyBug18

tchubirubi:

- you on top on a chair - I find that sitting on top while he sits on a chair takes a lot of stress out of my knees and makes cirle movements (front and up and back and down and front...) much easier to perform. Find a chair with appropriate height (too low will increase your effort, too high will diminish the amplitude of your movements). It is a good position for deep penetration, but since you'll be on top, it will be easy to take it as you want it. Good for pompoarism too and also works facing each other or with your back to him. You can try using the corner edge of the bed as well, but that may take a bit of the leg room for you when face to face...

This is why I was thinking the stairs...I can find the right step to 'perch' on w/o much trouble.

Syncronicity09

tchubirubi:

you on a table, him on his feet, facing each other

This also works off the side of the bed (or dresser, bathroom sink, you get the idea  ) if its the right height. If on your back is uncomfortable you can do it in a seated postition resting back on your arms.

 And for those of you who have not had sex in awhile, it had been awhile for us too. Until this morning, and there is A LOT of truth to the increased sensitivity during pregnancy. I probably will be putting more effort into it from now on!

amberpro

3-4 times a week... I'm with pps- dang!  Go, girl.  That was our pre-preg norm, but we're lucky with every week or 2 now.  And it's honestly getting so awkward, it's almost a chore when we do try.  I'll have to try some of the things mentioned to spice it up a bit.  Poor H.  

SpceCadet

We've been failing miserably at every attempt in the last month.  Between my growing belly and DH's existing belly and two artificial hips, many of these positions are out for us.  This morning we tried something new and it was fine for me, but too much for DH.  We're back to the drawing board.  I'm thinking we might just be at the point where helping each other might be our best options.

casirdms

BrandySun:

no help from me...i fear my lady parts have already atrophied from lack of any activity at all down there. i would guess it's been about 2 months now.

hahah same here. No hanky panky since beginning of Dec I think 

luvbeingmom

ahem... it's been a daily occurrence over here once we made it past the 1st tri.

which was was better than the last time i was pregnant. maybe we got in twice a month. 

same as other posters say, laying on the side is the most comfortable right now. everything else, the baby bubble is getting in the way, but we're making do